Matt Kahn’s video about The Apathy of Options really resonated with me.
Now I’m inspired to purge even more of my stuff to see if I can get to the place of only keeping what I truly love, need and use. I’ve been a minimalist, living simply for years, partly driven by moving a lot, then downsizing after selling my house. I currently rent a room in someone else’s home. I’ve been keeping some things with the idea I might need or use them in the future. This is how we fill up our houses, closets, garages, and storage lockers.
Matt’s video also inspired me to focus on having fewer choices in my life. His message is that the fewer options we have, the more fulfillment we find. Our culture is awash in choices, driven by marketing to stir up needs, and egos that fear loss. This means if we’re still living largely from ego, we are constantly chasing happiness outside of ourselves in objects. We even start to treat people as objects.
Matt helped me see how loss is the universe’s way of nudging us to move away from ego and the things that keep us distracted from our deepest truth and path. Loss is part of the initiation to wake up, letting go of ego consciousness. It feels hard and painful because there is a loss of the things and old ways, along with the death of the ego.
Matt poses the question “What if we don’t need any more than what we truly use in the present?”
Allow yourself to part with what you don’t need or use. Start fully embracing exactly where you are and what you have. Let go of other options. I almost always keep the door open for some other option, an escape hatch that allows me to avoid commitment and going deep into a place, job, or relationship. If we trust the universe is working for our highest good, then that means gains and losses are on purpose, not some kind of reward or punishment for our behavior.
In case you want to explore this topic further, here is Matt’s video on The Apathy of Options.
I’ve also been reading and enjoying the messages from The Grandmothers Speak via Sharon McErlane. Their recent message on the power of love nicely dovetails with the idea of letting go of options and distractions to focus on love. Almost everything we worry about; health, money, jobs, even relationships, has very little to do with love. According to Sharon, and I agree, they are mostly distractions and entertainment.
Integrating both of these messages, the real purpose of loss is to wake us up to deeper capacities and our ability to love. At the end of our lives, we will realize that the only thing that really matters is love. So why not get on with it now. And remember the power of small acts. Each smile, act of kindness or generosity contributes to the “net of light” and builds the energy of love and light in the world.
May we learn to love more fully.